Egocentric much?

Many people with Asperger’s Syndrome (AS) are seen as being egocentric. Or aloof. Or arrogant. There’s a distinctive tendency to focus on one’s own experience, sometimes to the exclusion of everyone else. As one of the hallmark traits of AS, this is a social difficulty that has had a profound effect on my life. In my case, it’s more subtle, but it’s had no less impact than on people like my brothers, both of them social misfits.

I won’t speak to my brothers’ experiences right now–Deep Thought (the younger brother) told me he’d be interested in guest blogging later–but I can speak to mine. I’ve never been a social butterfly, but I can talk to people. Then again, that’s often the problem. I can talk to people. With? Well… Read the rest of this entry »

Well THAT was inappropriate!

My family always taught us kids to be polite. Please and Thank You and all of that. Today, I teach my kids the same. In fact, my son says “No thanks” whenever he doesn’t want to do something. [“Thank you for being so polite, you little stinker, but you will do what you were told!”] Yet, good social skills aren’t always about your pleases and thank yous. Tact, heck, common sense, need to kick in once in a while.

Now that I’m an adult, I think I behave pretty well around other people. That’s not to say that I’m perfect, but I can’t think of any huge faux pas I’ve made lately. Small ones, sure, but nothing as embarrassing as a night at my Catholic Youth Group in high school. Read the rest of this entry »